Proverbs 31:10-12;25-31 the Message – A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves!
The A, B, C’s (and D, E, F’s) of Marriage Manners
A – ADMIRE one another
- Proverbs 5:18-19 the Message Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose—don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!
- Pay Attention Show Affection Rom 12 to, “Love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other.”
B – BELIEVE one another
- Proverbs 31:11-12 the Message A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long
C – COMMUNICATE with one another
- Proverbs 24:26 NLT An honest answer is like a kiss of friendship
- Proverbs 26:28 NLT A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin.
- Proverbs 29:20 NLT There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking.
- Proverbs 25:12 NLT To one who listens, valid criticism is like a gold earring or other gold jewelry.
D – DATE one another
- “Be polite. Are you more polite to co-workers or store clerks than you are to the one you love? Practice good manners at home.
- Choose to be kind.“ Harsh words and actions have no place in your home.
- “Do what your spouse wants before being asked. Anticipate your spouse’s needs and jump right in to help. Put his or her needs before your own comfort.
- “Call your spouse. Check in with each other throughout the day—just to say Hi or I love you.
- “Apologize. Almost as good as I love you is I’m sorry, forgive me. Marriage isn’t a game where you keep score. It’s not important who’s right.
- “Pray for your spouse daily. Don’t let a day go by without praying for your marriage, your spouse, and your family.
E – ENCOURAGE one another , Proverbs 12:25 says, “A word of encouragement does wonders.”
- Proverbs 31:29 the Message Her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”
- Proverbs 15:23 the Message Congenial conversation—what a pleasure! The right word at the right time—beautiful!
- Hebrews 3:13, “Encourage each other every day while it is today.” It’s a daily habit
F – FORGIVE one another
- Proverbs 17:9 NLT Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.